If I had to narrow it down to ONE thing ALL narcissistic men do in a relationship- no matter why type of narcissist you’re dealing with- it is this…
As long as you stick to surface-level conversations, the whether, what the neighbor is doing (like shoveling snow in -25 degrees in shorts), who’s picking up the kids, then, for the most part, you’ll feel like everything is ‘fine’.
Not saying arguments won’t happen over simple topics, (because with a narcissistic man arguments can start over the stupidest things) but these surface-level conversations are the least likely to end up in crazymaking territory.
In order to survive life with a narcissistic partner, you have to stick to the basics, NO emotion, no holding them accountable, no depth.
And this leads to the ONE thing they ALL do when confronted with their behavior: rather than taking ownership or aligning with you emotionally, they engage in crazymaking, gaslighting, projecting, blame-shifting, minimizing tactics, and everything goes sideways really fast.
The moment you bring emotion into it or point out what they’re doing. The moment you say how you really feel, or how they’ve hurt you, it all hits the fan.
So many women I coach in ETCE will share things like “‘as long as I don’t bring up emotions or the crap he’s doing everything is fine”.
And this right here is the hallmark of a narcissistic partner. Zero accountability. Zero ownership.
I’ve decided to test out a new addition to the podcast, and bring you “Monday Quickie” episodes highlighting one behavior, tactic or common phrase narcissistic men use to abuse, control, manipulate so that you can be armed with awareness.
I focus on men here to keep it very specific, however many things I share can also apply to other relationships.
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Listen to this episode for more!